Monday, July 31, 2006
Be Careful Who You Marry
I begin to understand now the qualms of parents when their child marries someone they don't think has the same basic values and sense as they do.
I realize this as I witness this certain family's worst fears unfolding, when they deal with their son/brother in-law, his wife (their child/sister) that he's influenced and the kids that they have both brought up.
The son-in-law was very obnoxious to begin with when he married their daughter/sister years ago. He covers up his abysmal insecurity and self-doubt with a super puffed-up ego, misses no chance to blow his own horn whether based on truth or lies, and thinks everyone else is his intellectual inferior. Frankly, he does not possess an ounce of wisdom and his ignorance sometimes astounds me. When he has a disagreement with his in-laws, he spares no arrows and uses even his kids to wage his own battles for him. Needless to say, his kids have inherited his ways and are growing up obnoxious, insensitive, tactless, disrespectful, ungrateful, arrogant and stupid. They think their father is an oracle and swallows the bullcrap he feeds them about their grandparents, aunts and uncles. It does not seem to faze them that they malign these same folks that were the first ones to jump in many times in the past when they needed help.
This particular branch of this family has caused everyone else many disappointments, deep hurts, disagreements, and fights because of their collective arrogance and ignorance. I see him as this very slow-acting poison that is corrupting their next generation and killing clan harmony.
It's a family coming undone all because their daughter did not have the sense to choose a better man. It is very sad to witness.
I realize this as I witness this certain family's worst fears unfolding, when they deal with their son/brother in-law, his wife (their child/sister) that he's influenced and the kids that they have both brought up.
The son-in-law was very obnoxious to begin with when he married their daughter/sister years ago. He covers up his abysmal insecurity and self-doubt with a super puffed-up ego, misses no chance to blow his own horn whether based on truth or lies, and thinks everyone else is his intellectual inferior. Frankly, he does not possess an ounce of wisdom and his ignorance sometimes astounds me. When he has a disagreement with his in-laws, he spares no arrows and uses even his kids to wage his own battles for him. Needless to say, his kids have inherited his ways and are growing up obnoxious, insensitive, tactless, disrespectful, ungrateful, arrogant and stupid. They think their father is an oracle and swallows the bullcrap he feeds them about their grandparents, aunts and uncles. It does not seem to faze them that they malign these same folks that were the first ones to jump in many times in the past when they needed help.
This particular branch of this family has caused everyone else many disappointments, deep hurts, disagreements, and fights because of their collective arrogance and ignorance. I see him as this very slow-acting poison that is corrupting their next generation and killing clan harmony.
It's a family coming undone all because their daughter did not have the sense to choose a better man. It is very sad to witness.
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